tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7933794355391496434.post1278512702937165152..comments2023-06-03T06:26:18.614-06:00Comments on A Million Chimpanzees: 10 Ways to Embrace Change: Why this Doesn't Work with (Married) Menjames.pyleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11424800834517755783noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7933794355391496434.post-75451045289280885072012-01-03T05:07:44.038-07:002012-01-03T05:07:44.038-07:00I understand what you felt during that time as I h...I understand what you felt during that time as I have gone through similar circumstances and have also watched my dad suddenly go through losing almost everything with my brother still in school and me just graduated from high school. Everything you describe about how you felt and the pressures to provide are real, however I don´t see that the advice provided in the other article deny those feelings, they just offer a perspective on how unexpected change can also bring about positive experiences and lessons. Fear is normal but it doesn´t guarantee survival it just anounces danger and there are many ways to respond to that.<br />In my dads case (unemployed for approx 4-5 years in his late 40s, had to sell the house, car..) he went from desperate job search, to learning something new (such as ice cream making with my brother), my mother actually underwent a positive change in that period and their relationship improved (it was hell before that), they learned to live with less, to spend more time together, he started to pay more attention to nature and finally began a buisness with trees which has now financially positioned him much better than he ever was, and he is 60. <br />I sometimes worry that the recent crises will destroy his buisness and break his heart but I believe that even if he did loose everything he would find a way around it, maybe lead a simpler life during his old age and still enjoy living. In my opinion the key for that is to value what one has (affections, health, a warm summer breeze, a funny situation) and not look at everything one has lost as if it were something missing, life is transitory anyway and theres still food on the table and a lot to be thankfull for and to enjoy.Camihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11380070364364608446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7933794355391496434.post-16563843596770515112010-08-23T09:15:06.993-06:002010-08-23T09:15:06.993-06:00This is an interesting, thought-provoking article....This is an interesting, thought-provoking article. I am a working wife and mother (age 61) married to a working man (age 65). In his working career, he has been laid off and has quit but not during the kind of economy we have today.<br /><br />Many of the points you make about the wife are salient and my husband would be quick to agree. When he was last unemployed, I can almost remember how many movies he saw! He would say, "I can't look for a job all day." I would think, "Why not?"<br /><br />However, because we have not experienced the nightmare contained in the length of time of your unemployment, and your statements that you may never recover, that you "could become unemployed again at any time and the whole nightmare would just begin again..." we do not have the scars you have and, of course, I want to deny that we ever will.<br />--Karen DyerKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18205327652175090341noreply@blogger.com